Saturday, August 12, 2006

Sunday Scribblings #20: Who Else Can I Still Be?

Good question. Playing the averages, I have a considerable chunk of future still ahead of me, although I'm no ingenue by any means.

Who else can I still be? Begin with the obvious. I'll be a mother forever. Long after I'm gone, and even if I should outlive my children, I'll be their mother.

Come December, I'll be a grandmother for the first time. Once I am, I will be always. That's what I will be.

Who else can I still be? Sky's the limit. I can still be the writer in the stone cottage on the New England shore. I can still be the woman wandering Paris with a laptop and a camera. I can still be (eventually) a Red Hat Lady. I don't know if I'd want to, but I could.

I can still be a journalist. Or an attorney.

I can still be the person I am, with a strong sense of self, and dreams of places to go, things to see and people to know, but no desire to change materially.

I can be the kind of person who doesn't take any crap, and finds that delicate balance between forgiveness and gullibility. I can be more insightful. I can be the kind of person that cultivates and relies on intuition.

I can still be wise. I can cultivate wise friends and acquaintances.

I can still be a loving partner.

I can be quiet, and listen rather than talk. I can still engage.

I can still write powerful, moving words.

I can be private. I can be open.

I can choose.


  1. great list. and congrats on becoming a grandmother.

  2. This is a great list of wonderful possibilities. And I guess the last one is the key, as long as we still have choice we can choose to be whoever we want! Thanks for posting!

  3. Beautiful thoughts; I have a feeling you're going to manage all those things and more! Lovely post.

  4. Thisis a lovely strong post. I agree with all you say. Congrats on being a grandmother soon -it's a blast!

  5. I like the last part the best--about choice. Too many people just give up and accept mediocrity.

  6. I love this post--thoughtful, interesting, self-reflective. My favorite lines:

    --"who ... finds that delicate balance between forgiveness and gullibility"

    --"I can be quiet, and listen rather than talk."

    Love the tagline on your blog, too ("if you're me").


  7. I really like this list. Ironically, I think its coolness suggests that you're already a pretty good person to be.

  8. Thank you for your comment. And I particularly loved the last line here as a reminder. EXACTLY. We can each CHOOSE...and how wonderful is that?! :)

  9. You said it "I can choose." I was a grandma last December and it's awesome! Congrats and may you get all your dreams.

  10. Great list boliyou! Some great things to work toward for all of us. Congrats on your little blessing! Wishing you and your family much joy in this new adventure.

  11. Choice is the best part!

    It's freedom.